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The Therapy You Want vs The Therapy You Need
July 6, 2026
What happens when therapy uncovers deeper work than you planned for? A Texas LMFT on self-sabotage, crossroads, and choosing the therapy you need.
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Self-CareMay 18, 2026
Self-Care: It’s Not Just a Buzzword After All
Self-care is not a treat or a reaction. It is routine, ritual and the foundation of healthier relationships. A therapist explains what it is and is not.
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Family RelationshipsMarch 28, 2025
Five Tips for A Great Relationship With Your Adult Child
Shameela Keshavjee, LMFT, talks with Authority Magazine about building a healthy, connected relationship with your adult children.
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Self-AwarenessDecember 21, 2023
Do You Really Feel Your Feelings?
Talking about feelings is not the same as feeling them. How intellectualizing emotions keeps relationships less intimate, and what embodied awareness offers.
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Self-WorthJune 28, 2021
On Self-Love in Relationships
Do you have to love yourself before you can be loved? How self-love shapes the way you experience romantic relationships, from a couples therapist.
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Stress ManagementJuly 12, 2020
The Struggle of 2020 is Real
Reflections from a therapist on struggle, injustice, isolation and the questions worth sitting with when everything feels like too much.
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MindfulnessMarch 31, 2020
Acceptance: Take it piece by piece.
Acceptance is like a jigsaw puzzle. Practical pieces of acceptance you can work on one at a time during uncertain, overwhelming seasons.
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TelehealthOctober 1, 2019
Online Therapy: What you need to know
How online therapy works for individuals, couples and families: technical questions, safety, platforms like SimplePractice, and what sessions feel like.
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Self-AwarenessApril 10, 2019
Change is hard. Self-awareness can help.
Why change is not linear and how self-awareness, appreciation and Portia Nelson’s “Autobiography in Five Short Chapters” can help you keep growing.
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Couples & MarriageMarch 27, 2019
Relationships and the Love You Deserve
How to recognize when a relationship is not right for you, how shame distorts what you believe you deserve, and where healthier love begins.
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Couples & MarriageMarch 10, 2019
Living Up to the Love You Want
What it means to live up to the love you want: humility, curiosity, empathy and honesty in romantic relationships, with questions for self-reflection.
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Self-AwarenessSeptember 8, 2018
What is Self-Awareness?
Self-awareness is self-study. Retroactive, in-the-moment and proactive awareness, and simple ways to practice each, from a Texas LMFT.
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Self-CompassionApril 23, 2018
When Self-Compassion Triggers Shame
When kindness toward yourself triggers shame instead of relief: a parts-informed path to tolerating and building self-compassion.
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GrowthMarch 26, 2018
Prepare for Pushback: How to Keep Growing When You Feel Unsupported
The growth you make in therapy will not always be welcomed by the people around you. How to keep growing when you feel unsupported.
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Stress ManagementJanuary 26, 2018
How to Hold on to Healing in Times of Stress
Life has a way of testing the progress you have made. Dos and don’ts for holding on to healing in times of stress, plus when to seek a tune-up.
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WritingJanuary 25, 2018
Writing about Mental Health
Why a marriage and family therapist writes about mental health, relationships and healing, and what you can expect to find on this blog.
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